Trust

I trust in softness. I prefer the gentle touch, the mild approach. I weep at the soft , quiet movements of Beethoven. Bombastic movements stir me, but I float in a yielding, more trusting manner with the gentler passages.

I trust the expectant early morning before the sound of birds overcomes the sounds of softly moving leaves. I trust that concentration and insight will flow from gentle settling, not from determined effort.

I trust in the soft settling into a letting go of all I aspire to experience. What I desire rushes into the formless abode I prepare.

Doubt is harsh and holds all at a distance. Trust is welcoming, soft and embracing.

Stop

I am sure that at some point I decided to stop trying so hard. Perhaps it was a gradual and evolving decision to stop. Maybe it was only a loosely defined intention.

It is now clear to me that it is no longer so important to me that I achieve. My driving gust to be the best has changed direction. Where there were once goals, things to achieve, I now stop, pause and take in the view.

Accepting things as they are seems so much more important to me than changing them to my liking. I may have even stoped imposing expectations on others, especially my own kids. I don’t seem to be so attached to their achieving, reaching certain outcomes. It is better, I think, that I accept and observe what is happening than think of how things might be changed.

I am less inclined to yield to how others might want to change me. I smile more at their attempts and gently nod. Now I nod in acknowledgement, not in acquiesce. I may have stopped investing in their expectations, or being moved by them.

I suspect that I am missing opportunities for what might be considered progress. It has been the human habit to seek to make things better, to achieve, to produce. I more often stop to observe, to notice, to understand.

Wanted

Perhaps I should put a sign in the window: Help Wanted. I’ve already rolled up my sleeves for a new and inviting day. It is an opportunity to continue where I left off last evening. All I need is a little help. I cannot do it alone. Another day. Help Wanted.

I especially want and need the companionship of my friends. It has been this way for a long time. I’m only now noticing how I want and need them in ways I have not realized. I realize how each of my companions has a unique presence in my life. Friends I have known and ones I rely on now are all part of my every day. I want it to be that way.

The multi-colored threads of my life continue to weave themselves into a fabric of yet un-realized design. Each of my companions have been a unique part of my living. I love each of them in a quite unique fashion, and that love has been slowly changing me in surprising ways.

I want their involvement and their wanted help is shaping my life. As I open my genuine self to each of them, I notice that I take each of them with me in a quite unique way. I am willing to be changed by them, and for that I want their help. I also want also to be a portal of change for them, and happily invite them to enter.

Each companion if mine has been so distinct it is hard for me to see a common thread. I seem to develop a completely unique and different connection with each of them. No two are similar, and I think I want it that way. Nothing arises to invite comparisons. I wonder if I have also appeared so different to each of then. Has a distinct part of me been revealed to each of them unlike any other?

I want the help of my companions, past and present. I want them to be part of me and who I am as I enter a new day. Help wanted.

Comfort

When I think of what I have to offer to other people, I first think of comfort. I offer a kind of comfort that brings peace, ease and refuge. It is a gift I want to bring, and am able because I know what it is like.

Comfort relies on an abundance of support, but comfort mainly is the relaxed feeling of being just who one is. Comfort rises from a kind of validation, an acknowledgement.

I want to offer the feeling of being a full and recognized person, full of radiance and wonder. Offering comfort is a way of affirming someone’s brilliant presence.

No one needs to be anything more or make any changes to receive what I offer. I want to give comfort to all my companions, to all who accompany me.

Blank

The morning begins with nothing planned on the calendar. A blank day has begun. Then slowly, the day is populated with things to eat, small tasks to complete. I remember that I want to read another chapter in a book that a group of us are meeting to discuss tomorrow. Are there more leaves to be raked from the bottom of the pond?

The blank day I saw the moment I turned off the alarm is slowly taking on an engaging shape. I want to put away the vases I cleaned yesterday and left perched on my counter. The repair I made on the laundry basket wants to be checked and experienced as complete and secure. There is that neighbor I want to contact for a committee on the environment.

Soon I have invited a gardener friend to sit with me and watch brave plants emerge. The blank moments where I saw nothing to do today have come alive with shape and color. A whole myriad of exciting action seems to have risen out of a vacant mist.

There will be new growing plants to welcome in the garden. First, I must read today’s poem by Rosemerry. What is it that Heather had to say about yesterday’s news? Garrison will fill my rousing mind with tidbits of insight about how today is linked to a literary past.

I will soon pick up the folded newspaper from the front steps, glancing at headlines that invite me to read more. I will ignore most of their invitation, having read all I need to know in their crisp announcement. The blinds need to be raised, tea wants to be made, the floor will remind me to sweep.

So much excitement, so many interesting engagements, so many ways to become mindful and aware on a day that was so blank only moments ago.

Ready

I’m never sure when I am ready to be opened up. I face disappointment, failure, loss. They all have the potential to open me. They all can have an effect more beneficial and lasting than success, but only when I am ready. Only when I yield to being opened up.

It seems I am hardly ever truly ready to be opened up by a friend’s growing distance and inattention. I often miss the opportunity to be opened and miss the chance to turn another blank page of unrealized expectations. I think I was ready to be opened up by the death of a close friend, and that allowed soothing grief to flood in, accompanied by a deep sense of my friend’s continued presence. I doubt that would have occurred had I not been ready to be opened up by the loss.

I wonder if I can be ready to be opened up by poor health or by failures that quietly stalk me uninvited. My failures as a gardener are sometimes on my mind, and I wonder if I can be ready to be opened by failures in my garden. Can I be opened up to something that success never seems to provide?

I wonder if I will be ready to be opened by the failures that every aging parent must experience. As an older parent, I become aware of my past opportunities lost, my failure to support, my unhelpful words. Am I ever ready to be opened by these growing awarenesses of my old actions as I watch my children grow older?

Success has seldom transformed me in a positive manner, except perhaps to strengthen the husk of my self-awareness. Mostly the breaking open times, the splitting of that self-supporting husk have served to allow me to grow. The breaking open times have allowed the mystery inside to unfold, the wonders of the world to come rushing in.

Stored

As I look across my bedroom at the tall bookcase that extends floor to ceiling, I stare into my stored past. So many books, some standing two deep on shelves, all remind me of my stored experience. Those pages tell part of the tale of all that has been stored in me.

A couple of books of chant are vestiges of the many songs I sang in those books. There are so many adventures and explorations. There are some fantasies, but mostly discoveries made by my heart and mind. Beginnings and endings are all there, as they remain in me. False starts that were never ended are there. So are also the repeated reads, and notes, and plunges into unfamiliar waters. All are reminders of what I carry stored in me.

Today I am aware of so many stored experiences, and the books only bring a reflection on a small part stored in me. Like the ancient maple in my garden, I have many rings that store experience of what seems the past, but is actually still present and part of me. So much has been stored in my roots and nourish me every day.

Even as I reach out to friends that surround me, I realize I do so with many stored experience within me of others and they are still present. I hold inside of me all those I have experienced and known. I have stored all those who have shaped me and still are part of my breath and my sighs. I hold a storehouse of encounters and intimacies on my yellowed pages and in my anchoring roots.

I have albums of photos that remind me of some days of my past, especially the stored memories of experiences with my two kids and Brenda. There are also other photos and written thoughts that remind me of the many people who have had intimate impacts on me and are stored within me. Their presence is more intense and intimate than the books standing vigil on the shelves in my room.

So much is stored inside of me, some easily accessible by memory and some not. Still, it is all there. What appears to be past experience is part of every everything that unfolds. What is stored has not ended. It seems to go on, day by day, moment by moment.

Stable

If I know that everything is instantly changing, always in motion, why does nearly everything seem to stay the same? Is it enough to realize that my mind provides the illusion of unchanging stability? Is my mind grasping for a stability that doesn’t exist. Is there, perhaps, some intervening plane that maintains the illusion of stability?

I wonder if things really are changing, or do they somewhat stay the same? Where lies the stability? And what difference does it make after all?

I suspect that stability is a creation of my mind and some notion of stability is maintained in spite of my unstable sense perceptions. Sometimes I just want life to be a stable path down which I travel with planning and deliberateness.

Perhaps all perceived existence, including my own, is more a river that will carry me along if I allow it. It is better if I simply relax, pay attention, and not focus on putting one foot carefully in front of another. I need not follow a stable path which, after all, may only exist in my mind.

Each morning, I tend to fashion a path that I plan to follow that day. One of my guides is my mental clock that marks how my day will be anchored. The danger is not that I might wander off this time-measured path, but that I might miss the thrill of a sweeping current that invites me into a world not at all stable.

If I truly relax, I never know what I might see of this changing world.

Path

Being on a path seems to imply some kind of movement. The presumption is that the movement is mine and is in a forward direction, towards an outcome. That outcome is somehow better than where I stand.

I think I am starting to prefer to stand in place, to feel undirected toward some kind of goal. I think I like the feeling of embracing unintended outcomes and I am a little suspicious of things turning out just the way I planned.

If anything moves, it is not me but the path itself. It carries me along, intent though I might be of not falling off the edges. I am thinking less of outcomes and more about yielding to where I am. I like to sometimes just sit on the path.

I sense that I have no place to go, no where else to be. The path will carry me if I do not resist or stray onto its sides. The flow of the path knows how to carry me. I need not move but only look around and be aware of where I am. It is enough to become part of where I am.

Kindness

For months, I have been sitting with groups of people as we explore the impact of trauma on all of us. We have been guided by Resmaa’s book on trauma as we have attempted to come to grips with the unfortunate impacts of the trauma experienced by our ancestors or ourselves.

In talking so intently with others about this inherited trauma, I have forgotten about something equally important. I have not remembered equally well that I am the beneficiary of countless acts of kindness, not just acts of trauma.

So many acts of kindness have shaped me. These are not just the acts of kindness I have directly experienced, but also the vast number of acts of kindness that have preceded me and had such a great effect on me. I may have a dark side to my inheritance, but I also have a bright side as well.

I think of the thousands of gestures that have both saved and enriched lives, and I received that bounteous inheritance from the first moment of my existence. I am remembering the countless acts of kindness that have created a high functioning species like me. Every morning, I immerse myself in the memory of the acts of love that have shaped the kind of person I am today.

I know that I carry the burden of past trauma, my own and my ancestors. I also carry all the acts of kindness of those who have come before me. I carry in me all the warmth and support of the sea of kindness of those who surround me with an abundance of compassionate love.

The raw hostility of the world is softened by the generous kindness that I see as the prevailing face of a universe that is essentially benevolent and kind. I have been marked by countless acts of kindness of humans just like me.

I aspire to play my own role in shaping with kindness what is yet to come. My every act of kindness reaches out beyond the time I still have to be alive.