Why all this fuss over whether someone considers themselves male or female? Everyone has both a masculine and feminine element in their nature. There is even a time in our physical development that even sex is indistinguishable. We all get to decide which, if either, we want to express. We decide which, masculine or feminine, we want to emphasize. I and everyone else have both, and neither exclusively.
For me to not embrace both would be to resist, frustrate and contradict who I am. This is true of all of us. I refuse to be entangled and constrained by the delusions of our culture.
I will be both male and female. I embrace and encourage each aspect in me. I choose wholeness, not division or separation. While I may mostly wear the trappings of a male in our culture, the female is alive and active within me.
I relate to the female in others. I am aware of the female and relax into it. I enjoy it. I don’t need to try to possess it because the female is already mine and part of me. I choose the manner I will identify with the female in me and in others. The same is true of the male in me. I choose the degree to which I embrace maleness in me and others. I want there to be my balance. I want both.
I relax around both masculine and feminine elements around me. I accept both, I do not feel threatened but enlivened by what I experience. I embrace and absorb what I see. I do not choose either. I choose both.