I like to think that I am self-motivated, but that is not always the case. I am constantly affected by the people around me, and that often influences the motivation I have to do the things I think I want to do. I am encouraged to do what I want when I experience a positive response from other people. Conversely, I am discouraged from doing what I want to do by negative reactions.
It takes more energy to overcome discouragement. And my energy is reinforced and amplified by any encouraging support I receive from other people.
I thoroughly enjoy my garden and I spend time fussing over so many aspects of my garden. Left totally to myself in isolation, I am convinced I would indulge in the delight of gardening. However, the positive reactions I get about my garden from strangers and friends adds to the motivation I have to fuss over my garden. I don’t know if it makes gardening any easier, but it clearly channels my energy to know that others will react positively and encouragingly to it.
I put up a lot of decorations for Halloween, and I do this because I enjoy having my house and yard decorated. The many positive reactions I get from adults and kids certainly encourages me to put in the effort it requires to make my home Halloween-festive.
A similar thing happens in conversations and in relationships. Encouragement helps draw out more energy and invites deeper insight and adventure. It is my innate social tendency that makes this so. It is the way I am made, as are all humans I think. There is a natural link that we have with one another. As much as I am aware of my aloneness, I am also aware how much others can reinforce who I am or, conversely, cause me to draw back from who I think I am.
I suppose I am capable of doing what I want to do all by myself. It sure is easier and more enjoyable if I have the encouragement of others.