The realm of relationship is not a place suitable for ballroom dancing, a place where one leads and the other follows. I prefer the ways of contra dancing, where the roles of partners do not allow one to lead or dominate the other.
I’ve made the mistakes with partners, first being the one who dominates. Then I gradually became subservient as she clawed her way to a position of dominance. Not at all a nice way to dance.
I now choose a dance where we are neither dominant or dominated. I choose a dance that is instead a whirling frenzy of two people in motion, two people who have abandoned themselves to the dance.