It is a harsh realization that there is no satisfaction to be found in normal human experience. “I can’t get no satisfaction” is not only a musical relic from my past but is a profound commentary on how things are. Any satisfaction is at best temporary, and that is probably what motivates most of us to keep trying. It never ends.
What a different experience it is to simply accept and embrace experience as it is. The joys and pains alike are better left alone, not pursued or avoided. I’m more at peace when I don’t resist whatever it is that presents itself. I’m at my best when I don’t try to change things very much.
I’m not being passive or giving in. I simply don’t think it is a helpful practice to “let go.” I’m rather annoyed by that 12 Step notion of “let go and let God.” That may be a useful temporary bridge to get beyond some personal turmoil. It is not good advice on how to live.
There certainly is no satisfaction to be found in letting go. Letting go is much too passive for me and I would much rather embrace the joy and pain. Allowing things to be as they are is a deep reliance on my having all I need. I take great comfort in relying on everything in me to carry me through. I am much better off when I don’t reach outside myself for solace or satisfaction.
I really don’t want satisfaction from fixing myself, or fixing anyone around me. Change is OK, but it is something that naturally flows from interest and insight. I’m not very motivated to change anything, but I rather just allow it to take a natural progression. I especially don’t expect satisfaction from making changes. I’ve noticed that pushing changes rarely bring satisfaction.
I don’t want to resist life, but I do want to allow it to happen. I don’t at all intend to stand back and watch things occur. I prefer to jump in and embrace what is happening, both the joys and the pains. I don’t expect to get much satisfaction, but I do think I will have more pleasant walks in my garden.