I seem to know so little about the emotional life of most of my friends. I’m not even sure that I have much of an idea what is going in their mind. There are a couple of exceptions, but there is a veil that keeps me from being aware of what many are feeling and thinking.
I have contact with friends, but my intuition is limited, my awareness is out of focus. I think I talk about what moves me in the things I read, the talks I listen to, the experiences I have. I don’t know how to summon the same transparency from them. I want to know more what they are experiencing in life. I want a deep and revealing answer when I ask “how are you?”
I would like our conversations to be punctuated by their recollections of how they felt when this or that happened. I want to hear more about their uncertainties, their worries, their apprehensions, their joys.
I don’t know how to ask the right questions. I’m not sure I am listening well. Maybe I talk and share too much. I want there to be fewer boundaries and greater transparency between us. How can I know them unless I can see them?